When every talk turns into the same fight.

What we work on

Most couples come in arguing about money, chores, sex, family or time. Underneath, it is usually the same pattern showing up again. We look at what happens when the two of you argue, not just what you argue about.

I use the Gottman Method. In plain words, we work on two things: feeling connected again, and talking in a way where you both feel heard. Conflict isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. The Gottman research describes it as a normal part of every relationship, and as something couples can learn to handle differently.

How it works

The first 2 to 3 sessions are an assessment. We talk about how you met, how you knew this was the person for you, your relationships before this one, and your health history. Each partner also has some time with me alone. Then I put together a plan, and we review the goals together to make sure they match what you both want.

No secrets. In couples work I don't keep secrets between partners. If something comes up in a one-on-one session that affects the relationship, we talk about how to bring it into the room together.

Weekly or a focused intensive. Most couples meet weekly or every other week. Some prefer a 3-hour couples intensive, in person at my Murfreesboro office.

Where and when. In person at my Murfreesboro office in Rutherford County on Tuesdays, or by video on Wednesdays from anywhere in Tennessee. See telehealth and what to expect.

Fees

Private pay. Superbills available for out-of-network benefits. You'll get a Good Faith Estimate in writing before your first session. All fees and policies

Rebuilding trust after an affair? Read about that work here. More on the Gottman Method: How I work.